what more one can wish?

we all are here with some motives.from our childhood,as we grow up,the priorities keep on changing.isnt it?at my age, my only goal in life is to make my daughter's life better and to see her excelling in every field of life. We live in a backward area of chhattisgarh,where good school is a rare thing.Thanx to NTPC that it gave the people of korba delhi public school.Why I am telling all this?The school is 17km away from our house.anybody will think twice to send a 4 yr old baby to send this far.But I never thought twice,I made myself strong and put her in prep 1.I wanted that she should be in a good school.12 years have passed,I didn't understand,when?My daughter is in class10th now.She has done her part.I am very proud to say that she participated mostly in all the competition and stood among three all these years.to add to it she has scored above 90 percent mark for consiquitive 8 years and got scholar award.She is waiting for the gold medal while leaving the school.During these years she was appointed as head girl,cultural secretary,english facilitator,and many in different classes.Really I am proud of her.You all must be wondering that I am saying about my own child....but why not?All these years I kept her on the ground by not praising her on her face...but now if I don't do this it will be doing wrong to her.I pray to all that praise your child at the same time don't let the praise go into their head.The children expects from their parents a word of encouragement which we seldom do.These thoughts were clouding in my mind and i think I am successful in bringing them as rain.Your children should be your first priority,just enjoy parenting in a selfless manner...........

mother daughter relationship

The strong bond in the family is the one that is shared by a mother and her daughter. Theirs is a bittersweet relationship, which goes through numerous ups and downs in life and in the end, still turns out to be the most intimate of all the other relations. In her childhood, a daughter copies her mom and wants to be just like her. At the age of five, her mother is like her goddess. She smears her face with her mom's lipstick and models her earrings and high heels, wanting to be just like mommy. She applies her nail polish and tries to do every thing that she sees her mother doing.

As she enters teenage, a daughter suddenly becomes the most ignorant and out-of-touch creature on the planet, for her mother. In this phase of her life, a daughter feels that her own mother does not understand her feelings. She prefers her friends over her mother and likes to spend as much time away from home as possible.Surprisingly she admits it also that she enjoys with friend rather than being at home. Then, somewhere between her twenties, a daughter realizes that the friend she was searching for throughout the teenage years was so near to her all the time and she is none other than her own mom! The relationship between a daughter and her mother is so complex, yet so simple.

When it comes to a woman and her daughter, fights are so common, be it because of the wide age gap between the two or due to the mom being over protective of her daughter or owing to the fact that the mom still treats her grown-up daughter like a kid. However, whenever there is a problem, the mother-daughter duo will be seen standing alongside and facing the world together. A daughter learns to be a woman from her mother. However, even after she becomes a mother of her own kids, she is pampered by her own mother. This is what makes their relationship all the more special.

One thing that should never crop up between a mother and her daughter is a communication gap. A daughter should always try to talk to her mother openly, be it about her studies, friends or even boyfriend. She should try to make her mother understand her viewpoint and at the same point, try to appreciate the perspective of her mother. On the other hand, a mother needs to change according to the time, minimizing the generation gap between the two. She needs to give her freedom, trusting her not to misuse it. Soon enough, the small little problems will get resolved and the two of them would be able to share a really close bond.

Mothers of daughters are daughters of mothers and have remained so, in circles joined to circles, since time began.

The essential thing about mothers is that one needs to know that they are there, particularly at that age when, paradoxically, one is trying so hard to break away from parental influence.
Margot Fonteyn

Modesty: The art of encouraging people to find out for themselves how wonderful you are.

I am now 37 years old.I have seen many ups and down in my life.Now when I go back to the memory lane I understand that the UPs were for being modest and the DOWNs were for being egoistic.But the thing is that I can not relive those moments again but one thing I can do;learning the lesson I can change myself and I have started doing that.Egoism is a big obstacle in the way of our life It is so powerful that it can even families.I remember a piece of writing it goes like this...... There are a billion people in China.  It's not easy to be an individual in a crowd of more than a billion people.  Think of it.  More than a BILLION people.  That means even if you're a one-in-a-million type of guy, there are still a thousand guys exactly like you.  ..........what are we?now this question should not make us think inferior of ourselves.
Humility does not mean thinking less of yourself than of other people, nor does it mean having a low opinion of your own gifts.  It means freedom from thinking about yourself at all.  Wash out your ego every once in a while, as Modesty is the gentle art of enhancing your charm by pretending not to be aware of it. cleanliness is next to godliness not just inbody but in humility as well.
Modesty is the lowest of the virtues, and is a confession of the deficiency it indicates.  He who undervalues himself is justly overvalued by others.There are two kinds of egotists:  Those who admit it, and the rest of us.  ~Laurence J. Peter. hahaha.......so it was a big lecture on modesty,humility and ego........I thank the modern technologies which enable us at least  to share our views .If at all it is unread ,still I have the satisfaction that I could pen it down.Let peace prevail everywhere........

religion or fun?

AS we all know dussera was celebrated recently.here where i reside a funny incident occurred .some hooligans stole the big ravana that was about to be burnt.funny na?ravana flew away with sita and ravan has been stolen in this kalyug.so at last ravan got punishment in the hands of ravans.that time only one ravan existed but nowadays we all play the role of ravan in some parts of our life.religious festivals have become a mode of enjoyment and only enjoyment.the so called bhakti is missing.the emersion of ma durga has become a procession of some drunk rowdies.ma never wanted this kind of puja.my heart cries seeing all this but i cant change all.so it is rightly said hum badlenge to yug badlega...........i am trying to do my bit......